extra safe. Maybe you finally bought a gym pass, but your gym is no longer opening as planned. Or your best friend’s wedding gets pushed for the third time.
Here is a recommendation that is a little hard to swallow, but will certainly help with your coping through the pandemic: Accept that there are things you can’t control.
That doesn’t mean give up and accept defeat. It only means that we must realize that no matter how much we plan for something, how hard we work for something, or how hard we want something — some things just aren’t possible right now. That’s a liberating feeling. You don’t need to blame yourself or anyone else, for these strings of cancellations or pushed dates or less-than-perfect outcomes. Instead, we must accept our lack of complete control, and work around it.
Understand, and take charge, of what is in your control
But even though the pandemic has taken many things out of our control, there are still some things that we can count on.
It might even be helpful to list them out: your daily walk, the meal you choose to cook for dinner, the people you choose to reach out to by text, the time you aim to go to sleep, for example.
You can count on yourself to be a good friend, to make the best decisions for yourself in the moment, and to cut yourself some slack. Yes, the pandemic has altered and restricted a lot of how we would usually spend our time — but it’s still in our control to spend our time in the best way possible given these constraints.
Sticking to a routine
Even outside of a global pandemic, routines are important for keeping us grounded.
One thing we can, and should, always try to keep a grasp on is our routine. In fact, a week after the pandemic was declared in March 2020, the World Health Organization in its messaging to people newly isolating said, “Try as much as possible to keep your personal daily routines or create new routines if circumstances change.”
Personal routines can be especially helpful in mornings and at night, to start up and wind down our days. What are the first steps you take in the morning? Maybe you walk right to the bathroom to wash your face, or head straight to the coffee machine. Before bed, maybe you read a few pages of your book or listen to a podcast to lull you to sleep? Whatever it is, choose routine steps that make you feel your best, and try to stick to that routine each day.