At some point, we all experience different types of relationships—romantic, platonic, or familial. However, some relationships can turn toxic, creating an unhealthy dynamic where one person holds more control than the other. Toxic behaviors can include dishonesty, coercion, lack of accountability, poor communication, and controlling tendencies, such as pressuring a partner into unwanted activities or making most of the decisions without consideration for the other person. A toxic relationship can affect mental health in many ways, causing experiences of depression, anxiety, trouble sleeping, PTSD, etc. Additionally, isolation from a toxic relationship can lead to further problems such as cognitive decline, heart conditions, a decrease in immunity, etc.

Signs of a Toxic Relationship

There are several signs to look out for in a toxic relationship or if you suspect you may be in one–here are a few:

● Lack of support: A person may not receive adequate support from their partner, which can cause them to feel isolated. This may start to feel like their partner only focuses on their own wants and needs.

● Jealousy: The partner may start to display feelings of jealousy, which can cause mistrust. They may also start to question where they are going, where they have been, who they are with, etc.

● Controlling behavior: A partner who tries to make decisions on behalf of the other may exhibit controlling tendencies. This can include dictating what their partner does, wears, or who they spend time with.

● Patterns of Disrespect: Disrespectful behavior can manifest through rude language, mocking, destroying belongings, and acting without regard for their partner’s feelings or boundaries

● Walking on Eggshells: Occurs when a person notices that their partner is frequently in a bad mood and cannot bring up concerns or issues without fear of an outburst.

How to Leave a Toxic Relationship

Leaving a toxic relationship isn’t always easy. Emotional attachment, fear of loneliness, financial dependence, or hope for change can make it difficult to walk away. Toxic dynamics can also wear down self-confidence, overwhelming our decision-making capacities. Here are some ways to prioritize your well-being and find support to help you take this step.

Steps to Leave Safely

1. Acknowledge the Need for Change

Recognizing that the relationship is harmful is the first step. You deserve respect, support, and happiness.

2. Seek Support

You don’t have to go through this alone—confide in trusted friends, family, or professionals who can offer guidance and emotional support.

3. Seek Professional Help

A therapist can help you process emotions, rebuild self-esteem, and establish healthier relationship patterns.

4. Create a Safety Plan

If the relationship involves abuse or control, plan ahead by saving money, identifying a safe place to stay, and keeping emergency contacts on hand. If you suspect abuse, reach out to a professional or a trusted organization to help you develop a safety plan tailored to your situation.

5. Cut Off Contact

If your well-being is at risk, block phone numbers, emails, and social media to protect yourself from further harm. When possible, you can also gradually reduce contact to lessen conflict and allow for emotional adjustment. If safe and feasible, communicate your decision to leave clearly and firmly, without negotiation or blame. If your safety is in immediate danger, it’s crucial to communicate your situation to a professional to seek guidance and support on how to leave safely.

6. Prioritize Self-Care

Leaving a toxic relationship can be emotionally exhausting. Focus on activities that bring you peace, whether it’s exercise, hobbies, meditation, or time with loved ones.

7. Reflect and Learn

Take time to understand what went wrong and recognize red flags to prevent similar situations in the future.

Leaving a toxic relationship is a challenging but empowering step toward a healthier and more fulfilling life. Remember that you are not alone—there are people and resources ready to support you. Prioritizing your well-being isn’t just a necessity; it’s an act of self-care and self-respect. By taking this step, you open the door to relationships that bring you the love, respect, and support you deserve. If you need help, reach out to Georgetown Psychology for guidance and support on your journey toward healing.

References:

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/what-is-a-toxic-relationship#signs

https://www.calm.com/blog/toxic-relationships

By Sanjana Umashankar, college intern, and Dr. Divya Babbar